well! the title really says it all, doesn't it?
i don't want to write "hahahaha" and downplay how rude, dangerous, and just plain wasteful this "hobby" (or sport?) is, but i will say - dang, man. don't you have ANYTHING better to do with your time?
here it is.
a few weeks ago, a woman follow requested my private instagram account. since i am private FOR THIS VERY REASON, i checked her out before i accepted. cute, blonde, glasses, funny, psychologist, lives in new york, likes to hike, likes to travel - cool. only problem was - the account was brand new. it was only a few weeks old, and she only had like, 20 pictures. but i later found out - she had a good reason - she'd always had to stay away from social media because she has a certain job that people latch onto and exploit, and also because the people she works with can be obsessive. i accept her request. it is then that she immediately "likes" about 50 of my pictures, and sends me a DM about 15,000 characters long.
at this point - i learn all the stuff about her job and blah blah.
she seems harmless. we chat some more, all our interests line up, fun. whatever.
it's nothing. but i'm still dubious. i don't really "click" with people online anymore,
because i'm not online to MEET PEOPLE. i'm just there.
she then starts asking about every aspect of my life.
she said something like it was just part of her job (as a psychologist.... at 32....) to learn everything about everyone's lives. so i give a LITTLE.... but don't talk to her much after the first initial conversation. but every little tidbit i give - she asks 50 more questions. okay. i give a little more, because she doesn't sound EXACTLY like the other internet predator (granted it's been years and most of it has vanished from my memory due to new and important stuff taking it's place...) but there's still something kind of off about it.
but i'm very cautious in general online now, (hence the never chatting with strangers) so... whatever.
she starts giving me advice and insights, (totally unasked for... typical of the internet predator) and finally - BOOM. "so, tell me about all your relationships and your ex." at which point, i just kind of laugh, and remove myself from the situation. if you DM with people on instagram, you know that the first line shows up on your phone like a text message. so when she said "so, tell me about your ex" - that much popped up, and i didn't even open that message. i just left it alone. and LOW AND BEHOLD - after 2 days of not acknowledging her - today the account had just miraculously disappeared, and after doing a little searching - no one on instagram has that name.
in conclusion - it looks like she sort of fooled me again, but not really. i had a stong instinct that it was her the whole time. but because i am a different person - it doesn't affect me in the same way. i am able to just laugh this lame attempt to get to me again off with a shrug and a sad head shake, because it IS sad... it's sad that she is still doing this.... to me, and UNDOUBTEDLY to multiple others.... i was never the only one.
i have all but forgotten about the events of 5 years ago, and here you are trying to start it all up again.
what is your deal? what do you gain from this? i'm not biting.
i wish "catfishing" was prosecutable by law, but until that day -
just be careful online. never forget that anyone can tell you ANYTHING, if they're not sitting directly in front of your face.
and if a blonde with glasses named "rhiannon" or "tara" or "natalie" or "StrongArmTN" or any hybrid of the few (because apparently she has yet ANOTHER sequence of names she is using that i have to add to the never ending list) requests to follow you - deny and block... because she used to LOVE to get in with my friends and spread lies about me behind my back. she isolated me so everyone pulled away from me - and she had me all to herself. she's an expert at it, and it was pretty easy for everyone to fall for, online. JUST BE CAREFUL. she loves to destroy lives for fun.
i have no idea who the woman in her new predator photo is - but it is most DEFINITELY
not who you'll be talking to. be safe! be smart. make your accounts private, and follow your gut.
**** update: since posting this blog across social media not more than half an hour ago - 3 friends have said they were also followed and contacted by this "strongarmtn" account. if it pops up again - block!