this weekend didn't go as planned.
i was supposed to have a few dates, and go to sf to meet a new friend.
EVERYONE. CANCELLED. ON. ME. i'm serious. absolutely everyone.
for the first time in my LIFE- none of it bothered me. at all. i was totally unphased.
with each cancellation that rolled in (mere minutes in some cases before we were supposed to meet),
i just smiled and shrugged my shoulders.
not to say that i don't care about the people that i was supposed to see...
i think, just signifying that such small things don't really touch me anymore.
i've fried much bigger fish the last few years to worry about the little stuff now :)
when i told beebs my date had cancelled on me last night, she invited me out for sushi.
i hate sushi.
i used to LOVE it. LOVE LOVE LOVE IT.
then i didn't eat it last year, and this year, it makes me wanna puke.
well, we were all having SUCH a wonderful time, and they were all SO enjoying their sushi,
i decided i needed some. and it was. GLORIOUS. :)
here's to rediscovering parts of yourself you thought you'd lost...
we enjoyed ourselves so much, i posed the idea of making it into a monthly affair.
so now i have a standing date with my babies at least one saturday of every month.
a new tradition was born just like that.
see?
when something doesn't go your way, just hold on for a minute.
something infinitely better is already on its way <3
Beebs here!
Shelly gave me the honor of being in charge of her Saturday blog!
Thank goodness she did. Why? BECAUSE ITS HER BIRTHDAY!
HAPPY. BIRTHDAY. BOOTS!
I am no where NEAR Shelly when it comes to writing, so you're going to have to bear with me.
Where do I even begin with boots? I just love her. love love love her.
I cant believe I went 27 and a half whole years without knowing her. I mean, really?
You don't know what you're missing. She has provided me with a WHOLE new outlook on life.
I could never thank her enough for all that she's done. All it took was a "like", then BOOM. bff's.
I will never forget the first day we met.
I opened my front door and there she was with arms wide open. Ready and willing to take me in.
Boy am I glad she did! I cant even begin to tell you how much Shelly has helped me grow as a person.
She is the definition of a GOOD PERSON.
There is something about her that instantly makes you love her.
I've never met anyone like that before. She IS my happy place. I think our Santa Cruz trip is what really did it for me. Thats when I fell in love... with ube. ;)
but really, hearing about all of her accomplishments and experiences made me think "I want that".
I have never met another person who appreciates every moment of every day so much.
If only everyone could be like her. Appreciative. The world would be a better place.
I cant count how many times I've called my friends after a "beebs n boots day" to tell them how AMAZING my day was.
I cant help but laugh just thinking about our adventures. I'll tell ya, we are two funny betches. I said it.
Like I told her, we could light up any room. Why? Because we are two happy people. Merry happy!
It has come to the point that every thing I do reminds me of her, that's when you know this persons your best friend.
Here is a small list of things that remind me of the birthday girl. when i see,hear, think, or taste any of these things... I think of Shelly (boots in a nutshell): mint green. hair. dogs. ube. unicorns. target lady. the sky. the letter "s". deer. trees. stripes. pink (the f22-something color). charming charlies. scarves. glee. new girl. bj's. earrings. bridesmaids. boats. boots. birds. butterflies. brown ford focus. pumpkins. mint n chip. fall. hearts. Like every friendship we have our ups and downs. You know what?
That can only make your friendship stronger, and it has.
I have never felt so loved by anyone, I dont think she knows that.
Did you know that, boots? I have never felt so loved by anyone.
Words could never measure up to my growing love for Shelly. I am truly blessed to have her in my life.
I know that sounds super sappy, but I really do thank God everyday for her.
People are put in your life for a reason. I ALWAYS try to make the best of it. So does she.
I wish everyone knew how amazing of a person she is. Never a dull moment with my Boots.
I cant wait to see what the future holds for you, boots!
Its gonna be good, I can feel it. Its happening. Lets celebrate!
LET'S CELEBRATE SHELLY FRIGGIN' BORT!!!!!!!!!!
I just Love you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.
love, Beebs <3
hay hay :) its my bday tomorrow. i wasn't going to acknowledge it, but i got some super early bday wishes this morning that i just wanted to post here :) im so blessed to know amazing people from all over the world. despite my little snarky comment in the middle of it painting a very accurate picture of what im doing the day before, my life is so wise and full. and im absolutely floored and incredibly humbled by it <3
thank you to all my friends who make an effort to tell me or show me every single day- that i'm special to you.
i wouldn't have lived through the hardest year of my entire life without you. no way.
i owe you forever and a day. and i'll never stop telling you how special you are to me. <3
i'll add to this as they pop up, but here's my online bday wishes this year :)
im gonna put them all here so i can look back at this on days when things get rough.
and when i get too down on myself, i'll remember there are people out there who care about me.
and you will make a difference. Birthday Wishes 2 Thousand Aud 11 my babies <3
still not done with the friends week of thanks :) its going strong, nerds.
one of my favorite parts about having good friends is having them over and planning special things.
throwing partay's where we all sit around talking about how much we love each other...
music... drinks... hugs... pictures... or full on photo shoots... dessert partay's... jam seshes...
lots to celebrate. and we do :)
this weekend im going to build a beverage cart to take our good times to the next level.
and here's my inspiration...
and for good measure ;)
soooooooo you know how yesterday was about maerls?
yeah. there's endless reasons why... buuuuuut here's a pretty good one. i seriously can't even talk about it.
look at the font she DREW.... its the same font i use in my new website circus design...
i mean.... im dead over here. d.e.a.d.
this year's fathers day was probably the best one we've ever had.
it was just chill, but fun... restful yet busy... i dont know how it all worked out, but it did. wonderfully :)
here are a few glimpses <3 Father's Day 2011 it started as most days do, by the dogs jumping on my head at 5 am to wake me up. at which, i banished them to their beds.
juniper hated me. i've never met a dog who can look so pitiful... then, i thinned out half of my hair. its SO thick and heavy, i sweat 25/8.
after thinning (seriously) half of it out, i mean, LOOK at that fistful!) it was still SO heavy i wanted to cry... i can't wait until september when i can just chop it all off again. ugh. ive never wanted to cut my hair so badly in my life. it's been nice, but its TIME TO GO. then i took my dad to see "the green lantern", which i didn't know would be in 3D!!! it was AMAZINGGGGGG!!!!
we were both on the edge of our seats. ive never seen my dad so excited in a movie ;) it was just awesome.
AND, once the lights came back up, i nearly died at the collection of popcorn on his belly shelf... ah dad :) then we went to qdoba for dinner (yes, HIS choice. not fancy, but MY SWEET BURRITO is it good). and THEN... in my favorite event of the day... we went next door to yogalicious to get dessert, and there was no room to eat our icecream inside! so.... when we walked outside, we saw these firefighters across the parking lot eating their yogurt on the front bumper of the fire truck. and we just HAPPENED to have lawn chairs in the back of the car! so we pulled them out, mom & dad sat in them, and i sat in the hatchback. it was HILARIOUS. absolutely hilarious. people kept driving by and waving... then it was time for a few presents, and a quick half game of hand & foot... in which i got TROUNCED because these were my cards... all in all- just an absolutely lovely day :)
i hope yours was good too <3
 so we've been in rehearsals for "Joseph and the Technicolor Dream Coat" for a week and 3 days so far... and... to put it mildly... the girls have a LOT of "sit around time".
last saturday night, i knew we were going to be dancing and i didn't want to be covered in sweat from my 20 pound, 5000 degree hair, so i pulled it into 2 huge pouffs and slapped a bow on there. not a big deal... but when i walked in the room- all the boys LAUGHED hysterically and started clapping. and then every girl kept patting them and saying "omgggg sooooo cuuuuuute" which was HILARIOUS. here i am, 59 years old, and all the teenagers are like "I WANT TO BE YOU!" i die.
my new little sister Shea liked them the best. i told her i'd do it to her hair and she assured me it could NOT be done. she has suuuuuuuper tight curly hair all the way down her back... the only girl in the show with more hair than me ;) and it's a LOT of hair. well.... you know me. i like a challenge ;) so we made plans to do her hair tonight. she would bring the hair ties and i'd bring the rest.
so as we were sitting around (as per usual last night) i did her hair. well, we forgot a comb. so i just had to rip my finger through her poor hair. she didn't seem to mind. 15 minutes and 20 bobby pins later, she had the cutest hairstyle i think i've ever seen. it helps that she is like, the cutest girl i've ever seen too... so without further adoooooo, here is my new little bestie with her cuter than cute pouffs by yours truly. oh! i also gave her some S&BB clips because i just adore her, and i knew they would make the hair style even more swoon worthy. (and omg i am SO excited that she is going to come model for us! she's so perfect for our stuff.)
isn't she DARLING?! i love you cutie <3
and just fyi- here's mine. we had a little photoshoot in the car after rehearsal saturday night ;)
 why are we always so eager to believe the worst in people? why are we always so eager to NOT give people the benefit of the doubt? why do we always assume things are aimed at us? why do we think everyone is talking about us behind our back? why are we always so defensive? why do we always have to be right?
why do we think the world revolves around us?
IT DOESN'T.
not everything is about you.
that thing you heard your friend say? that wasn't about you. stop reacting. give them the benefit of the doubt. they are your FRIEND. trust that they're not talking crap about you. trust them. have faith in them. give them the benefit of the doubt.
that facebook status you saw? that wasn't about you. stop blogging ot tweeting about it. did you even stop to ask this person what it was about? and furthermore- WHY would you think it WAS aimed at you? have you done something to deserve this? it may apply to SOMETHING that has happened- but DOES it apply to YOU? SPECIFICALLY? not everything is about you.
the minute i stopped thinking every little thing anyone said was about me, my life got so much happier.
when i made the choice to say "ok- even though that could apply to me- it's probably not about me- because the world doesn't revolve around me" - everything became more clear. i'm sure SOME things are about me, but why would i assume that every little negative thing ANYONE EVER SAYS- is directed at me?
i don't understand this streak in people... why certain people don't grow out of it. one of the major reasons i erased my twitter and cut back 1000% on my facebooking is because of this very thing. people take things SO out of context. you could be speaking about the temperature on the moon, and your friend would IMMEDIATELY apply it to themselves, pick a fight with you, overreact, facebook it, tweet it, blog it, and slam you 6 ways to sunday. and you were simply referring to some passing thought about the moon.
why do we do this to ourselves?
why do we ASSUME the bad stuff is about us?
because we NEVER assume the GOOD stuff is about us. if someone wrote "my god. i can't believe it. SO. HOT." what would you think? that person just saw someone hot, right? now, their friends are going to re-tweet and respond, and facebook comment, and blow the ENTIRE innocent comment out of proportion. the person's partner will get their feelings hurt, their friends will jump down their throat... rumors will be started.... and all the while it will have occurred to NO ONE that it was 95 degrees today. and that was ALL that was about.
we NEVER give people the benefit of the doubt.
we do we assume someone is trying to hurt us in some covert way?
shouldn't we give that person the benefit of the doubt that if they had a problem with us- they would actually come to US with the problem? and furthermore, if we assume something is about us, why do we have to overreact and draw the ENTIRE UNIVERSE into the "dispute"... twitter, blogs, facebook, tumblr, youtube... these are all just new mediums for people to get their feelings hurt.
give someone the benefit of the doubt today. don't react. simply assume it has nothing to do with you unless it has your name on it, and move on. you'll be SO much happier. learn to do this with EVERYTHING. because let me tell you- if someone is covertly writing condescending crap about you on the internet, or saying it behind your back- you don't want them in your life anyway. invest in people who have your best interests at heart. and then have FAITH in them. you want good friends? it starts with YOU being a good friend first.
it's not you.
it's not them....
it's simply all of us trying to coexist in a world where absolutely every little thing is stacked against us.
stop thinking everyone is attacking you. why would you want to do that to yourself?
no reaction is the best reaction. and it will alleviate SO much of your stress and heartache.
trust me. this is something i had to learn for myself in my 20's.
as much as it does in your head- the world does NOT revolve around you.
relax.
and now- how many people who are reading this think i'm talking about you?
THATS EXACTLY WHAT IM TALKING ABOUT. why aren't you giving me the benefit of the doubt right now?
that if i had a problem with you, i would say it TO YOUR FACE, as ALL of you know i do when i have a problem...
i don't sneak around... i confront and resolve... so why would you CHOOSE to think this is about you?
the only way this is about you is if it applies to you.
and if you're getting your feelings all hurt by this blog,
maybe this is something you need to look at in yourself.
maybe you should be looking at these things in yourself every single day.
growth cannot happen without reflection.
growth will NEVER happen without positive action.
take an active interest in your attitude. don't assume. give.
give the benefit of the doubt. are you a good friend? ARE you?
do you think people are talking crap about you all the time?
well maybe you think that because YOU are talking crap about people all the time.
so you just ASSUME it's happening to you.
it's not. so stop it.
get over yourself.
i got over myself when i was 29 years old.
i got so tired of driving myself insane over every little thing i was hearing and reading online,
one day i slammed my computer shut and said "NO MORE. it's not about you. it's about them."
and since then- i've been free.
if it doesn't have your name on it- why would you claim it?
it's not about you.
it's not you.
give the benefit of the doubt.
so, this is the SECOND time im writing this blog. fml.
i just spent an hour on it, and then accidentally dropped a picture into the webpage-
so it decided to erase my blog and feature the picture instead. kill.
basically- i had all this great stuff to say, but now im not going to bother.
here is what's happened in june so far.
(the basic plot of the last blog was- can you believe its june 2011? 2011????? JUNE!?
i cant believe the year is half over.)
what have you done that you're proud of this year? June 1 - 10, 2011 june started off with a friggin BANG like you wouldn't believe.
i spent 4 days on the coast. i love it when a one night gig turns into an all out 4 day adventure with people ive never met before who are unbelievably amazing. <3
i crossed a BUNCH of stuff off my summer checklist on the last few days of may and the first few days of june...
and i have until SEPTEMBER to finish everything :) i just went gung-ho. hey... when in rome...
so june started off with amazing monterey, santa cruz & carmel adventures.
followed by 3 days of non-stop central valley rain, during which the dogs became so depressed, they did nothing but sleep, and cuddle together on the couch 24/7. then, scot and i decided to watch some tv together. MISTAKE. i was disgusted, shown accurately by the above face.
scot was vomitous too, he just hides it better. stay tuned for a video of our new favorite show.
THEN, i spent a lifetime making a HUGE piece to hang on the wall behind my bed.
what you see pictured is about half of what is there now. wwwooooowwwwww. that was work. and worth it :) then, my year was made when jorma and i decided to be exclusive.
he's the one, guys. i can just feel it... THEN, 3 more days of NON-STOP rain. so much rain in fact, the entire central valley was put on flood watch.
i was like "HEY. im tryin' to watch so you think you can dance here. i'll worry about it when the pool is in my living room..." and then the pool was in my living room...
the poor dogs were going out of their heads, so i turned the downstairs into an all out dog-run for them.
and then they slept for 2 days straight. then, JOSEPH rehearsal started... FINALLY. phewf. i went to the first rehearsal with soaking wet hair, a cut off t-shirt, baggy jeans, and my gorgeous bra hanging out. year of the lady my foot. im disgusting.
and then alicia and i proceeded to lose our friggin MINDS this week.
as you can see in the 3rd picture in this set, alicia's main purpose in life is to remind me what a MASSIVE DOME i am in posession of. ew. and then last night was nutsier than usual. for some reason, alicia mentioned Zima, and i LOST MY LIFE.
she kept saying "Zima! for zomething zifferent" and i kept wetting my pants. so we just left in the middle of rehearsal and walked to the store to get zimas. SHOCKINGLY they didn't have them. do they even MAKE Zima anymore? they DID have Clamato juice though. so of course, i licked a can, effectively giving myself herpes, and then put it back.
then i stayed to watch the boys dance so i could lust after my 20 year old, and then justin and i got some much needed fun out of our system... you can tell where we were by the glow- in- the- dark- tree in the bckgrd ;)
so far it's been the best 10 days of this year.
here's to 10 more.
and then 10 more :)
here's what's making me laugh on fb lately...
on this first one, stewart's comment just murdered me. so simple.
yet so so so so funny. this second one- dana is just so so funny.
you have no clue how many times i have posted this exact stati... i think this last one is my favorite.
there is this HORRIBLE "walmart commercial" going around on the net, and it seriously made me want to barf.
i cant believe i made it through all like, 5 minutes of it... or something. its HORRIBLE. SO SO SO SO Horrible.
i was waiting the whole time for someone to appear, making a joke out of it, but its serious.
this just popped up in my feed as soon as i got done watching it.
2 black guys in my friends had COMPLETELY DIFFERENT REACTIONS to it.
the fact that they both came up right on top each other gave me a coughing fit.
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